Is getting things done supposed to be this hard?

As an adult with ADHD, you often navigate a daily landscape filled with challenges that can leave you feeling drained and overwhelmed. At times, tasks that seem simple for others can feel physically impossible for you. Even when you put in your best effort, the cycle of shame and frustration can grow, as “trying” often doesn’t yield the results you hope for. This struggle can create a sense of inadequacy, making it hard to maintain motivation and pushing you further into self-doubt. Furthermore, the pressure to conform to neurotypical expectations can leave you feeling exhausted. The demands of fitting into a society that doesn’t always accommodate your way of thinking can be particularly taxing, especially if you also experience societal “othering” due to your identities within the LGBTQIA+ community or alternative relationship styles like polyamory. This additional layer of complexity can amplify feelings of isolation and alienation, as you seek connection in spaces that may not fully understand or appreciate your experiences.

You may also find that your thoughts skip ahead too quickly, making it difficult to focus during conversations or tasks, leading to moments of frustration when you can’t contribute as you wish. This constant juggling of attention can leave you feeling mentally fatigued, with a lingering sense of being out of sync. Additionally, managing time can be a significant hurdle; deadlines and schedules may seem nebulous, causing you to rush at the last minute or miss important commitments altogether. In this whirlwind, the little joys of life may seem overshadowed by these challenges, leaving you yearning for strategies that can help you navigate your unique journey more effectively. Recognizing these experiences is crucial in finding the support you need, enabling you to harness your strengths and create a life that feels more aligned with who you truly are.

How therapy can help

A session with me as your ADHD-focused therapist creates a uniquely tailored space where your mind is not just accepted but celebrated. When you come to our session, you'll find that I understand (and relate!) how your brain works differently—the way your thoughts might race or how you struggle with certain tasks while excelling at others. I create an environment where your multi-passionate nature isn't seen as a deficit but as an asset  that allows you to make connections others might miss. As someone with ADHD, your quick thinking and great wit and humor bring a special energy to our conversations, and I honor those qualities while helping you channel them effectively. During our sessions we'll identify practical strategies that align with your natural thinking patterns rather than fighting against them. You'll discover that your tendency to hyperfocus can become a superpower when directed toward activities that truly matter to you. I believe in working with your brain, not against it, creating systems that feel intuitive rather than forced.

The therapeutic relationship we build helps you recognize that seeking support isn't about "fixing" you—it's about finding ways to thrive in a world that often isn't designed for minds like yours. Together, we'll explore how your ADHD may influence your autism spectrum traits, as these conditions frequently overlap and affect each other. I'll help you develop self-compassion for the challenges while amplifying your unique strengths.

Here's why you might consider seeking therapy for ADHD: 

•  Persistent feelings of overwhelm despite your best organizational efforts 

•  Difficulty maintaining relationships due to attention inconsistencies 

•  Experiencing burnout from masking your natural tendencies 

•  Struggling with emotional regulation and rejection sensitivity 

•  Needing help developing personalized strategies for daily functioning 

•  Wanting to transform shame into self-acceptance and confidence 

•  Seeking support for career challenges that emerge from executive functioning differences

It doesn’t have to feel this way

Imagine a life where the burden of shame associated with your ADHD begins to lift, replaced by a sense of clarity and purpose. Through therapy, you embark on a transformative journey that helps you understand that your struggles with functioning are not a reflection of your worth. In our sessions, we'll focus on identifying your intentions for our work together, linking them to the underlying values that guide your life. This process allows you to discover what truly matters to you—be it personal relationships, career aspirations, or your hobbies. You’ll learn to let go of the belief that shaming yourself into action will yield better results, understanding that this approach only leads to frustration and burnout. Instead, together we’ll focus on slow and sustainable progress towards your goals, fostering a sense of self-trust that empowers you to take meaningful steps forward.

As you gain insight into the true underlying emotions of procrastination, you’ll come to realize it’s not simply a lack of motivation; often, it’s interconnected with fear, overwhelm, and perfectionism. This newfound awareness allows you to approach tasks with compassion rather than pressure, turning challenges into opportunities for growth. With each session, you'll cultivate a supportive environment where you can explore your thoughts and feelings safely, nurturing a kinder relationship with yourself.

In our work together, we might discuss: 

• Strategies for building self-trust and confidence 

• Emotional trigger points behind procrastination and avoidance 

• The importance of setting realistic and achievable goals 

• Techniques for sustainable habit formation and change 

• Ways to maintain motivation without self-shaming 

• Insights into how your unique strengths can guide your path 

• Fostering a mindset of progress over perfection